Julie Jacky

Spiritual Coach

self care

Try This if You Can’t Get Anything Done During the Pandemic

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Are you having a hard time staying focused? Not able to get the important things done that you’ve set out to do? Instead, you’re finding you are getting distracted or doing the seemingly unimportant things. Yep, that happened to me, too!

You know what, it’s not your fault and it doesn’t help to beat yourself up. I will share why that’s happening to you in this video as well as why it’s important to be gentle with yourself right now, and what you can do to support yourself during this time.

Please comment below something you learned and something you can do during this time that will help you.

Also, if you want additional support, especially during this time, and want to learn more about tapping, then be sure to join my Tap Into Your Heart Facebook community.

Here are 5 practical tips that may support you right now, too.

Click here to tap for Relief from Coronavirus related fears

PLUS – Be sure to Click here to learn more about my spiritual memoir

5 Practical Tips to Stop Fear and Choose Love!

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With the spreading of the Coronavirus, there is a lot of fear going on in the world right now. If you’re experiencing fear its important for you to know that fear is a normal response. Your body is literally hardwired for fear — to keep you safe.

You can feel fear and other emotions inside of your body on some level.

Right now, we are all impacted by fear one way or another whether it’s the fear we feel when we hear someone cough in public (or are afraid of what others will think if we cough in public) or our plans have changed because of canceled activities, canceled school, concerns about income changes, or, or, or. . . There are so many fears we can have.

Here is the thing though — it’s up to you if you want to stay in fear or not.

Once you recognize you feel fear in your body and you’re thinking fearful thoughts you get to make a new choice.

I am recommending you choose LOVE – please keep reading.

When I share messages about stopping the fear and sending love like I did on Facebook and Instagram it doesn’t mean I’m sticking my head in the sand or suggesting others to do that.

It means to stop living in a state of fear and start choosing something way more supportive of yourself and others.

You have a choice. You do have to choose though because you cannot be in both fear and love at the same time.

Fear doesn’t help you. It doesn’t make anything better, it makes things worse.

Fear = false evidence appearing real.

Fear puts your body into a stress state, which weakens your immune system — which is the opposite of what we want to do right now.

Plus when we are in fear, we can’t think clearly, therefore, we can’t make good decisions.

For example, the rush to get toilet paper (TP) is fear-based. There have not been reports of massive diarrhea with the Coronavirus. People aren’t shitting like they’ve never shit before if they’ve tested positive for the virus.

While yes it’s true if you self-quarantine (or we become required to quarantine) then you’ll use more TP at home instead of other places you normally use it. However, you won’t suddenly need to use up some crazy amount of it.

And if you do run out of TP there are other options… face tissue, paper towel, washcloths, towels, and taking a shower to name a few.

But if you feel the need to stockpile TP because you’re afraid you’ll run out, then please be sure to get an extra pack of it and drop it off at a homeless shelter or food shelf so you can turn your fear into love and help others in need. (There are people who are out of toilet paper now and can’t find it because the store shelves are empty – so consider checking on your neighbors to make sure they have some.)

Also while you’re at the store picking up TP, be sure to pick up items that will boost your immune system. Boosting your immunity will help your body more than the TP will.

Here are 5 practical tips on how to stop fear and choose love to support yourself during this time:

BOOST IMMUNITY a quick Google search will result in many answers on what specifically you can eat to boost your immune system.

  • Here is one article about foods to eat.

SLEEP is also another way to support your body and boost your immune system. It’s a heck of a lot easier to get a good night’s sleep when you’re feeling love. . . and a heck of a lot harder when you’re in fear.

MEDITATION is a great practice to start (or do more if you’re already doing it). It helps you overcome the mind chatter going on, which will calm your system down.

  • Here is a link to a mediation you can download to help you with sleep.
  • Here is a link to a mediation you can download to help balance your energy centers, which will boost your immune system:

EFT/TAPPING will help reduce the cortisol (stress hormone) in your body and calm it down. You’ll feel more relaxed and at ease after tapping.

  • Here is a link to an 8-minute tapping exercise that will help you reduce stress and feel calmer. (It doesn’t matter if you’ve tapped before or not. I will guide you in the video.)

SEND LOVE – Another way to support yourself and others is by energetically sending people Love. It’s easy to do and only takes a few moments of time. Here is an article on how to do that.

Listen, this isn’t a time to freak out. It’s a time to calm down, practice self-care, choose healthy foods, and to check in on others who may need support — all of those are loving acts.

We will all get through this one way or another. And when we do we will all have shifted and changed in different ways. Please, do your part right now to make the shift for the better.

Share this article so others may hear this message, too. It’s important to give people tools on how to do choose love, calm down, and boost their immunity.

P.S. Be sure to join me in my community – Tap Into Your Heart.

Following My Therapist’s Sage Advice

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As I write my book, I’m purposefully applying the sage advice my therapist gave me four years ago when I voluntarily had seventeen (17) therapy sessions in one month. (Yes, you read that right… 17 therapy sessions in one month, and Yes, that was CrAzY! … I don’t recommend it unless you can drop everything else in your life.)

Before she agreed to my intense healing immersion idea she required that I agree and commit to doing self-care each day (wise, wise lady!) and suggested some ideas:

  • Go on walks
  • Take naps
  • Get a massage
  • Take warm bubble baths
  • Do fun activities with friends
  • Get creative with arts and crafts

Over the past several months as I’ve been putting pen to paper writing my personal healing and forgiveness stories for my book I’ve found at times the writing process can be similar to those intense therapy sessions. Ernest Hemingway summed it perfectly:

There’s nothing to writing. You just sit at a typewriter and bleed.

So, I am making sure to do some self-care each day!

My therapist didn’t say climb trees, but she did say to have fun!

Read book update #2 to find out why I wanted to cry after a call with my soon-to-be publisher!

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Why I’m Grateful for Forgiveness

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Today I’m grateful for forgiveness.

why-im-grateful-forYesterday (Friday) around 10:05 AM I found a flyer about a Forgiveness Weekend Workshop. I read the flyer 3 times, looked at my schedule, called the number on the flyer and left a message asking if they had space.

I received a message back that they had space and would see me at 7 PM — that night. (Friday night)

I rearranged my schedule, went home to nap (wasn’t feeling good), had dinner and went to the opening evening of the workshop.

Agenda

Friday night- Forgiveness process
Saturday all day- Forgiveness of others
Sunday afternoon- Forgiveness of self

I knew I was supposed to be there. I had some Forgiveness to do. I was grateful I found that ONE flyer that informed me of the workshop. I was grateful they had space open for me and I was grateful I was feeling well enough to go. I was grateful I was able to rearrange my schedule to attend.

I knew it was time to forgive him. It was time to forgive the person who sexually abused me between age 11-17. It was time to fully let go.

I went to the workshop. Half the room introduced themselves with their stories of who they wanted to forgive and why, and then we started learning about the steps in the Forgiveness process.

I was grateful it was a short evening of learning. I knew Saturday would be a big day.

Saturday morning the other half of the participants shared their stories and then we started going over the Forgiveness process in more detail with a preview of the deep work we would get into after lunch.

After lunch and a short walk in the crisp air we headed back to dive in and do our work. We started with a meditation and then with our eyes still closed the instructor asked for a volunteer to work with her at the front of the room to go through the process. I raised my hand. (I think it was easier to do that with my eyes closed.)

And as I had my eyes closed and my hand raised I asked God to please guide me. “God, if I’m selected, please help me be fully open and please help me clear all this out and fully let go. And if I’m selected, God, please let me be filled with courage so I may be a positive example for the others that will do this process after me. Thank you God!”

The instructor said “you may open your eyes. The lucky winner is you, Julie.”

“Oh shit, what did I just do?” was my first thought. And then I said in my mind “Ok, I will do this. I’m ready. I’m ready to let go. I’m ready to forgive. I’m grateful for this opportunity. I’m grateful to be fully guided by the instructor through this process.”

I took my seat in the chair at the front of the room and followed the 8 steps of Forgiveness the instructor led me through — slowly — one at a time.

With tears in my eyes I said I was ready to forgive my abuser and fully let go. I was ready to forgive so I could fully feel safe again.

With tears streaming down my face I expressed all the emotions I had left bottled inside me from the past regarding the abuse and the abuser.

Rage.
Anger.
Hurt.
Sadness.
Resentment.
And many other emotions came out.

I was so ready to let it all go. Although I didn’t enjoy saying all the things in front of the group I was grateful for the opportunity and process because I knew I would be in a different space once I got through to the other side of the process.

I’m grateful I was in a room filled with loving and supporting souls that held a safe space for me while I went through that process. 

I’m grateful I was able to fully express my emotions and let them go.

I’m grateful I was able to release my expectations that were keeping me stuck in the past.

I’m grateful I was able to open up space to allow new and good things to come into my life.

I’m grateful I was able to feel and see the beautiful bright light that was there helping me heal my mind, body & spirit. I could feel things moving and shifting inside my body and I could feel this beautiful unconditional love filling up my heart. 

I’m grateful I was able to send his soul unconditional love and grateful for the tear that streamed down my cheek as I sent him love.

I’m grateful I could feel my body relax and let go and calm down inside.

I’m grateful I’m able to see all the good that came from this situation.

I’m truly grateful for the Forgiveness process. I have so much gratitude in my heart my eyes are welling up with tears.

This has been quite a healing journey for me over the past few years and I’m so grateful to have let all this go and to feel peace inside my body as a result of this forgiveness process. I’m truly grateful for the forgiveness process!

Letting go and forgiving, albeit not fun, is way easier than carrying that crap around for years and years.

After my experience yesterday I want to go on a forgiveness immersion! Forgive everyone for everything and experience that freedom!

The world is a better place when we do our work.

And there’s one more thing! The day after I wrote this blog post, look what popped up on my Daily Affirmations from Louise Hay calendar! You can’t make this stuff up!!!

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Check out what happened when I attended the forgiveness workshop here.

Please feel free to comment below something you are grateful for today! I would love to hear what you’re thankful for!

Authenticity During Holidays: How to Remove Your ‘Happy Mask’

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Are you feeling anxious about staying true to yourself during holiday gatherings? This season, embrace authenticity during the holidays by letting go of the ‘happy mask’ and creating deeper connections with family and friends.

how-to-beWhen you embrace authenticity during the holidays, you might find that relationships grow stronger and more meaningful. When you put on a “Happy Mask” during the holidays to pretend everything is OK people can usually feel your energy and know that something feels off. They may not know exactly what is off, but can feel something is off. So don’t do that this year. Practice being authentic before you meet with family and practice being authentic while you are with them.

If one of your family members asks you how you are doing — and you really aren’t doing too great — it would be OK to say something like “You know, I’ve been having some challenging times, but today I am letting that go so I can focus on time with you and our family. How are you doing?”

That is an authentic statement to say to them. Something that most people will appreciate and respect. And then the question back to them moves the conversation back into their direction. Practicing authenticity during the holidays allows you to show up as your true self, fostering genuine connections.

I know what you may be thinking… ”Well, that might work for some people, but not for me talking to my ____________ (fill in the blank… Mom, Mother-in-law, Aunt Betty). They won’t leave me alone if I said something like that.” Then respond kindly as many times as you need to with the same simple statement (over and over if you have to): “Mom, I know you’re asking out of concern and because you love and care about me, I thank you for that, and I am also asking you to please respect that I am not OK talking about my situation today. I would like for us to focus on a fun and happy time together and I bet you would, too. Thank you for respecting me.”

Showing up authentically during the holidays can transform your family dynamics. Embracing authenticity during holidays is a gift to yourself and those around you.I know it might seem hard to do, but YOU CAN BE authentically you during the holidays. Who knows! You might even start a new trend of being honest, self-aware, and open with your family. So take off the Happy Mask and show up as the real you. Your soul will thank you!

Check out this blog on why It’s more important to be Yourself than be Positive.

The more we love ourselves that easier it is to show up authentically.  Experience a Shift in Self love with this tapping exercise. Of course, you can be supported in our Women’s Tapping Circle. Click here to register now.

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