Julie Jacky

Spiritual Coach

EFT/Tapping

How to Actually Send Love (and Not Just Say It)

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Sending Love can go from an overused sweet sentiment to an intentional energy shifting act that feels good. It’s a simple process, but we have to pause and do it for it to be effective.

Below are the deets on who, when, where, and how to send Love so you can be intentional with it.

Who to send Love to:

+ someone you love

+ someone who needs support (physical, mental, emotional, financial)

+ someone you’re in conflict with
(which isn’t always easy to do)

+ someone you hate and/or don’t want to forgive, (which can be very hard, but very freeing!) 

+ people, places and things that have been impacted by disasters (natural or otherwise, like a hurricane or shooting)

Take a moment to think about who you’d like to send Love to while you’re reading this so you can feel good sending Love to them in just a moment.

When to send Love:

anytime – day, night, evening, weekend, it doesn’t matter. 

The best time to do it is right when you are thinking about someone or a situation that tugs at your heart, regardless if you’re in a position to help in another way, too, or not.

Where to send Love:

to a specific person, place, or thing anywhere in the world.

Also, you don’t need to be in a specific location to send Love. You could be at work, at home, or even standing in line at the grocery store.

You can send Love from anywhere in the world to anyone at any time.

How to send Love: 

  • First, close your eyes
  • Next, direct your breath in through your heart and out through your heart
  • Then set the intention to send Love to someone or something specific

Although you’ll continue breathing through your heart throughout the entire exercise, after 3 full breaths you’ll imagine the person, place or thing you want to direct Love to, is in front of you. Imagine Love in the form of heart shapes coming out of your heart, floating across the space between you, and entering the heart of the person, place, or thing you intend to receive it.

You can choose any color you want for the hearts. You could imagine sparkling light rays beaming along with the hearts, or even send heart bubbles. Whatever pops into your mind that represents sending Love for you is perfect.

Continue breathing through your heart as you send Love, take a couple more deep breaths through your heart, and when you feel complete, then open your eyes and notice how you feel. 

The whole process can be as quick as 10-15 seconds and as long as you choose to make it last. The longer you stay in the elevated emotion of Love, the better it is for whomever you’re sending Love to, and the better it is for you. Yes, you do benefit from sending Love, which is a beautiful side effect, wouldn’t you say?

Pause, take a moment to try it out and comment below what you experienced.

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Anxious to Confident Moments Before Speaking

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As I walked towards the back of the ballroom of the historic Hotel 340 in downtown St. Paul, Minnesota, I noticed Dara sitting by herself with her hand perched against her forehead and eyes looking down at the white cloth on the large round dining table. She looked to me like she might be feeling sick so I stopped and asked her if she was okay. She told me she was nervous because she was speaking next, on stage at a conference for small business owners that we were both attending.

I asked her if I could help her. She looked up at me with a gleam of hope in her eye, nodded her head up and down, and got up out of her seat to follow me into a quieter space where we could tap without interrupting others listening to the current speaker. In the small adjoining room, we sat down in a couple of chairs that were out of the main walking path so we could have a little more privacy. 

I asked Dara to share with me the thoughts that were going through her head and she articulated some of the common thoughts and feelings many of us have had before standing up to speak in front of the group, no matter the size. 

Common thoughts I have heard people express before speaking include:

  • I might make a mistake and say the wrong thing
  • I don’t want to sound stupid
  • What if I forget what I want to convey to the audience?
  • I am afraid I am going to bore everyone
  • I don’t want to be embarrassed
  • What if my PowerPoint (or other technology) doesn’t work?

I guided Dara through the tapping points and asked her to follow along with me and trust the process.

I led, speaking out loud repeating what she had shared with me, and she echoed me while we each tapped the points on our own bodies. After tapping for just a few minutes her body calmed down inside and she said she was actually excited to take the stage. She realized she wouldn’t forget anything or mess up because she knew the content inside and out. After all, she was passionate and experienced at guiding authors through the process of publishing their books and she would do just fine. She shifted from fear to confidence right before my eyes.

I took my seat between two of my friends who both happened to be named Amy and we listened to Dara share her wisdom and offer tips to a large room full of potential authors. As she was speaking the Amy on my right side leaned over and whispered she’d heard Dara speak several times before and this was by far her best. She was so impressed that when Dara was done speaking she made a beeline over to her table to let her know how awesome she was. 

Here’s the story in Dara’s words:

Before giving a presentation, I was officially allowing nerves to get the best of me–sweaty palms, anxiety, and serious panic. After sitting with Julie for only a few minutes before my presentation, I felt immediate relief. After working with her, I was not only no longer anxious, but excited to take the stage. Never before was I completely relaxed giving a talk in front of a large crowd. After my presentation, several in the audience told me that my presentation was their favorite. One woman said, “I’ve seen you speak before and this was your best.” I have Julie to thank. ~Dara B. Co-founder of Wise Ink

(Three years later, Dara is now my publisher!)

Listen, you don’t have to feel nervous before you go on stage. You can tap and turn that fear into confidence and excitement. You just need to state your fears out loud while tapping and allow the fear in your body to dissipate. 

Be sure to join me in my free Facebook Tapping Community for tap-a-long videos to help you clear out your fear and anxiety of public speaking. 

Here’s Why You MUST Tap on the Negative

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One of the most serious questions that I get asked is why are we tapping on the negative?

My answer is “because it’s there.”

 

click here if you’d rather watch this on video

So many of us have been trained to only focus on the positive. So many of us have been trained through the law of attraction to just focus on the positive and when we focus on the positive, everything will go our way and we’ll get exactly what you want. 

Well, how’s that working for you?

If you get honest with yourself, it’s not working.

 

It’s not working because you’re not acknowledging the negative or what I like to call “the crap”. You see, our brains are hardwired for negativity and so we can’t help but have a negative thought as our very first response. We don’t want to stay in that negative space so it’s our job to retrain our brain and override that negative response with a positive one, but we can’t do it by ignoring it.

Think about this. You have been somewhere where you’ve seen somebody across the room and you didn’t want to talk to them. You didn’t want them to see you. You didn’t want to be around them, so you decided that you’d ignore them and pretend they’re not there.

Do you know what? They were still there, even though you pretended they weren’t. The only thing that actually resulted in was having a bunch of fear energy going on inside of you, pretending they’re not there, and yet there they are.

They’re over there, but you’re pretending that they’re not, but they are there. Now just because you’re ignoring them doesn’t mean they don’t exist, because they still exist.

It’s the same thing if you have a bill that comes in the mail. Let’s just say you don’t have enough money to pay the amount due. You decide not to open it up. You ignore it or bury it under other mail. Is the bill still there? Yes, it is and you still owe the money. It didn’t go away because you ignored it. And in fact, it often makes it worse when you ignore it, because now not only do you have that bill, but now you probably have an interest fee and a late fee tacked on it because you ignored it. So ignoring it actually makes it worse.

And that’s true with your emotions, too.

It’s not your fault! We weren’t taught in elementary school or junior high Emotions 101 class. Chances are nobody taught us how to process them and deal with them. In fact, they taught us the opposite with phrases like “You better stop crying or I will give you something to cry about” or “Stop being so emotional”. If we got angry we were told that was bad.

As a result, we learned to ignore our emotions, stuff them, brush them aside, or we pretended they didn’t exist.

But the truth is none of that works, especially as a long term strategy… And you know it.

And how that you’re admitting that to yourself, it’s time to make a change because you know it’s insane to keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results.

Thank goodness for EFT! 

I teach people how to use EFT/Tapping and to tap on the crap in order to work through emotions and release them. Listen, you MUST acknowledge the crap that’s there. When you tap and acknowledge it, it will move away. It will dissipate. And that’s when you’ll start to feel better.

You’ve heard before that message that ‘the only way to get through it is to go through it.’ And maybe the extended version… ‘You can’t go over it, around it, you can’t go under it. You have to go through it.’ Well, that’s true with your emotions, too. You have to go through them, feel them and experience them. And when you do that, they will shift and you’ll get to the better feeling emotion that you wanted to begin with.

That’s how it works.

When you’re tapping, the best thing that you can do for yourself, the fastest way that you can make shifts is by acknowledging those negative emotions. Tap on the crap. It’s the best way to get results.

Keep tapping and tap on the crap!

Click here to check out this video Why we use EFT/Tapping on the Negative Stuff

Tapping to Release Physical Pain

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Do you have physical pain in your body? It doesn’t matter if it is new pain or chronic pain. Let’s tap on it!

We will be doing a technique called “Chase the Pain” to release any physical discomforts you may be experiencing!

Be sure to subscribe to my YouTube Channel for more tapping videos!

Click here to learn what Julie did when baby toe got stepped on.

 

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